Wednesday, December 26, 2007

Stop victimizing the victim

Stop victimizing the victim

Sorry to be writing in English. The transliteration tool is just too cumbersome.

I don't understand why the victim's sister is saying that she would have killed her sister if she had a knife. Did the little girl do something wrong? A rape victim is not a "lost case". Life doesn't end just because a woman is raped. I think that is what women in Kerala need to hear. The fear of rape is keeping women locked in their homes and (conveniently for men) out of the public sphere. Statistics say that in the US, 1 in 3 women have been sexually assaulted at some point in their lives. But that's not keeping anyone at home cowering in fear. Women live, work, and move around in every corner of society, at all times of the day. A rape victim doesn't commit suicide or live out their life in self pity. Indians need to lose the age-old, idiotic idea that a woman's virginity is a prized possession. It's a ploy to keep women from being active participants in society. If you look at pictures of a kerala political rally, an ulsavam, or any public gathering place, you will wonder if there are no women left in the place. They're hiding at home, afraid to go buy their own groceries, for fear that they will be "violated".

I know that the writer is sincere, but such pieces only stoke more fear among women, helping to continue this vicious cycle.

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-Elsy, Pennsylvania,